So we all survived NaBloPoMo! I only missed a wee bit, but I think I also get extra points for hosting Thanksgiving and also not missing any 365 days.
I'm annoyed today,. Would you like to hear why? Oh, joy! The other day my mom e.mailed me and asked me why I didn't have a link to that CJane blogger in my sidebar since I'd referenced her in my last post. My mom experiences most of the internet via the links on my sidebar - so you guys are famous (in a small apartment in China)! I told her that I actually wasn't a huge fan for a few reasons, but I like to read her and keep current since so many people read her and look up to her as what an LDS woman is. I like to know what is being put out there.
Right after I e.mailed my mom back, CJane posted about discovering her Mormon feminism. I'm not going to knock feminism, but how she came to that decision really, really, really bothered me. She admitted she'd grown up thinking boys were more important than girls, and her sister said she'd felt the same way. I read that and was horrified for several reasons.
1. I've NEVER felt that way. I've been an active Latter-Day Saint my entire life and never once did anyone infer men were superior to women. I was always taught how important and divine both our roles were and neither was better.
2. I get to fight a daily battle of dumb stereotypes against my religion, and I really dislike it when people perpetuate those stereotypes.
3. Who taught these girls they were not as good as boys?? I don't want to point fingers, but whose mama let that one slip into their ears??
Baaahhhhhh. If anything, I have to fight the urge to not not feel superior to men. I guess I'm just really lucky to have skipped out on whatever inferiority complex creeped into ..... is it Utah-raised women? I've never lived there so I don't know. I railed about this to the husband last night and he asked me what I'm doing in my calling as head of the teen young women in our congregation to ensure they don't have this misperception, and had to say nothin', because I'd never dreamed it was be an issue. As a LDS woman, I have always felt valued, important and equal. It never occurred to me anyone would even think of us that way. BAAAHHHHHH I say.
The only time anyone ever disparaged me as a woman was when one of my brothers used to make dumb, sexist jokes. And my mom laid the smack-down on him. I was raised by a really smart, really awesome woman and that's where I got that wacky ideal of gender equality.
Yesterday two of my friends from college played on the Leno show as part of one of my favorite bands - the Polyphonic Spree. I'm jealous as all get out, but they are two of the most talented people I know and it couldn't have happened to more awesome musicians. My friend Sean was documenting the day through instagram and it was so awesome to live in a teeny way vicariously through his experience. While he was getting all did up and recorded though his day, I had WonderGirl throw up all over my bedroom floor at 1am, then managed to throw up in the bathroom while I was doing a lice treatment on her that night (more about that another time), the Dude spent the day still afraid to go to the bathroom, and my unborn child was/is trying to beat up several of my internal organs. The juxtaposition was a bit much at that point.
After we got them into bed, my husband wrapped his arms around me and thanked me for choosing to live the life I do for our family. We've both made sacrifices to raise children, but it sure does help ease the hurt when he's always aware of and grateful for what I gave up. I didn't give it up because I didn't feel I wasn't worthy for anything else. I didn't give it up because that was all I was allowed to do. I gave it up because I prayed about it and knew in my heart it was what I was supposed to do. If there was anything else I was supposed to be doing, I'd totally be doing it.
And I'm respected for that choice. It's awesome.